You asked, what does it mean to be intimate with God? How can I love God??
To be intimate with God simply means to be close to Him, to have a connection with and be familiar with Him. First, to love God we have to know His love for us. He is the Author of love and so true love, real love actually comes from Him and can’t be found outside of Him. God’s love for us is an agape love. Agape love “is a completely unselfish, give-based form of love. This type of love can love a person despite any physical or emotional challenges.” This means that no matter how messed up we are, He still loves us. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 explains God’s love: “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”
Second, to love others we have to know God’s love for us. This kind of love is hard to give to others unless we have first received and been filled with this love from God through His Holy Spirit. When we are born again, we are connected to this agape love, but our past beliefs about love keep us from experiencing this love, the real love of God. “We may be afraid of intimacy with God because we do not understand how He operates. Sometimes, we are filled deep-down with bitterness and unforgiveneness that prohibits the Holy Spirit’s ability to have access. Like blockage in a drain, the Holy Spirit is blocked and prevented from reigning and ruling. His love is there, but we can’t experience it because we aren’t able to let it flow freely in our lives.”
“…..love is both the problem and the cure.” The primary goal is to be connected to God, who created you and loves you. “In that love, you will find peace, wholeness, and the ability to function in healthy relationships.” If you seek the Lord with all your heart, you will find Him.
Being intimate with God is, like I said earlier, to be close to Him and to be familiar with Him. He wants us to come to Him and be real with all our sin, grief, and despair and lay it all down at His feet. That is where our hearts will be healed and we will experience the power of forgiveness. In turn then, we will have the power to love and forgive others. So, God wants the real you. Not you trying to be ‘good’, not you putting on a fake smile again, not you trying to hide your flaws and weaknesses but just YOU. You, the way you are right here, right now. He wants you to come to Him and be open about what you’ve done, what’s been done to you, and how you’re feeling. God, as a good Father and as our Creator, has formed us and designed us with His own hand. Who we’ve become isn’t who we’ve been created to be but is what our sin or someone else’s sin has done to us. And God wants to take all the sin, pain, and the damage away so that we can be who he designed us to be. That is His heart’s desire for us💜
Pray for a revelation of God’s love.
*Quotes from the Christian Codependency Recovery Workbook